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Speaking the Truth in Love…

  How we communicate with others is very important. I have the privilege of working with people who are going through difficult times. Some of these people are able to talk about those difficulties with grace and compassion. Others communicate … Continue reading

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Giving Yourself Grace

This is an idea I hear often. Whether it is someone in counseling describing the struggle not to condemn themselves, or a friend offering me well-meaning advice when I am struggling with my own perfectionism, or the content of a … Continue reading

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What Does 1 Corinthians 7 Say?

The Bible is the inspired word of God. It is the place we can go to get direction and guidance for day-to-day life. It addresses issues we face and contains incredible wisdom we can apply to our lives. But occasionally … Continue reading

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The Manual

The Manual I’m self-diagnosed as an anxiety sleep walker. As a kid I used to sleepwalk for any and every type of dream. I remember trying to convince my mother to come to a concert in my bedroom once and … Continue reading

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Forgiving the Big Hurts

In South Africa the Forgiveness Project has worked diligently to promote forgiveness following the end of apartheid and the incredible wounds that South Africa has  faced.  This same group has worked at promoting forgiveness and healing in Rwanda following the genocide … Continue reading

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What now? I have sinned again!

We, like Isaiah in chapter 6 of the book of Isaiah, are a fallen people.  When Isaiah saw the throne room and was face to face with God he cried out in fear and said “Woe is me!  I am … Continue reading

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Intimacy in its various forms

I am frequently working with people to help them with issues in their relationships. Tim Keller, in a sermon from Proverbs that he entitled “Repairing Relationships” makes the point that relationships are always in need of repair.  We live in … Continue reading

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Grenades and Healing Relationships

I work with a lot of couples.  Most of these couples will come to me for counseling because their relationship has deteriorated and they are growing more distant and unhappy with each other.  They want a good marriage, and in … Continue reading

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God is not an Object

We are tempted by our nature and taught by our culture to treat others as objects instead of people.  Whether we are in conflict with others and think of them as barriers to what we want or we treat them … Continue reading

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How to Battle Anger in a Relationship Pt. 2

I wrote recently about how to deal with anger in relationships.  I introduced the idea of working through real issues without criticism or contempt. This is really hard, but an important step in healthy relationships and in growing in our … Continue reading

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